By strengthening our natural Aperture Awareness - our sense of openness to each other - couples learn to connect and build trust. In the Winter Quarter at Stanford I will be teaching Enhanced Dialogue for Couples. Sign-ups for the course open on November 30 and enrollment is … [Read more...]
Attuned= Mind reading + speaking
Are we supposed to know intuitively what our partner is feeling, wanting, thinking? Or are we supposed to tell each other explicitly? Yes, and yes. I’ve recently had interesting conversations with couples about the value of explicit communication versus “tuning in” to each … [Read more...]
Repair After Injury
We are not able to dance closely without sometimes stepping on each other’s toes, trampling or loosing track of each other. And attachment research tells us that secure attachments happen in relationships where there is connection, then disruption of connection, followed by … [Read more...]