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Different Coping Styles
I was a newly minted psychiatrist in 1989, when the largest earthquake since 1906 struck the Bay Area. The couples I was seeing were having trouble staying connected, and helping each other through the crisis. As I listened it seemed … Continue reading
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Emotional Contagion
Emotions are contagious. And the closer we are to others, the more time we spend with them, the more likely it is that we feel their emotions and are affected by them, sometimes “catching” them. On the one hand, this … Continue reading
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Stanford Continuing Studies Course: Enhanced Dialogue for Couples March 5 & 12, 2016
The quality of a couple’s relationship is often the most important determinant of their sense of well-being and satisfaction in life. It can also be the source of much challenge and frustration. So how do we make our committed relationships … Continue reading
Difficult Conversations: The “Doorbell” Strategy
Difficult conversations epitomize the concept of crisis as a moment of risk as well as opportunity. Much of the quality of relationships is determined by how well we handle difficult conversations. Handled well, they further trust and intimacy; handled poorly, … Continue reading
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Repair After Injury
We are not able to dance closely without sometimes stepping on each other’s toes, trampling or loosing track of each other. And attachment research tells us that secure attachments happen in relationships where there is connection, then disruption of connection, … Continue reading
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The Power of an Inspiring Vision
Each of us holds inside of us a heartfelt longing for an ideal relationship with a life partner. It is one of our most precious dreams. Sometimes we know what it is; sometimes we have even talked openly about it … Continue reading
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